Your spouse was unfaithful. Those four words don't begin to do justice to the horror you are experiencing. Rage, fear, grief, and even numbness are all normal responses to the shock of betrayal.
The pain of betrayal is like touching a hot stove. Your instinct is to move away--fast. But marriage and family counselor Winston T. Smith urges you to not make any quick decisions about the future of your marriage, to instead go to God with your hurt and pain. He also offers practical, biblical advice on how to talk with your spouse about the adultery, how to set boundaries, and how to process your emotions in a godly way.
About the author:
Winston T. Smith, M.Div., is the director of counseling at CCEF and has extensive experience as a marriage and family counselor. He is the author of the booklets, Divorce Recovery: Growing and Healing God's Way, Help for Stepfamilies: Avoiding the Pitfalls and Learning to Love, It's All About Me: The Problem with Masturbation, and Who Does the Dishes? Decision Making in Marriage, and the book, Marriage Matters: Extraordinary Change Through Ordinary Moments.