Are We Ready for a Ring? equips dating couples with the biblical wisdom, honest reflection, and practical tools they need before deciding to take the life-changing step toward engagement. 

You’ve been dating for a while now, and it feels like there should be a next step. You care deeply for the other person, and you enjoy the time you spend together, but is he or she the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Drawing from decades of counseling experience, Rob Green offers a compassionate yet candid roadmap for evaluating personal maturity, relational health, spiritual unity, and life direction.

Are We Ready for the Ring? helps couples evaluate whether they should move toward engagement, wait to make a decision, or step away from the relationship. With real-life stories, relevant Scripture, and heart-probing questions, this book encourages couples to look beyond emotions and consider the foundations essential for a Christ-honoring marriage.  

• Tackles contemporary issues such as the impact of social media, financial struggles, past relationships, and differing life goals. 
• Provides clarity, confidence, and peace in discerning God’s direction by promoting thoughtful conversations, personal growth, and shared purpose.  
• Guided questions and reflective exercises for individual study, couple discussion, and mentor-supported conversations. 

Rob Green is the senior pastor at Faith Church (Lafayette, IN); ACBC fellow; Biblical Counseling Coalition Council Member; B.S., Engineering Physics, The Ohio State University; M.Div., Baptist Bible Seminary (Clarks Summit, PA); Ph.D., Baptist Bible Seminary (Clarks Summit, PA).

He is the author of Tying the Knot; Can We Talk; Not Tonight, Honey; Reuniting After Military Deployment; Leaving Your Family Behind; A Father's Guide to Raising Boys; a coauthor of The Gospel for Disordered Lives as well as other works.

He and his wife Stephanie have three children.  Together they authored Tying Their Shoes: A Christ Centered Approach to Preparing for Parenting. 

Endorsements:

“Pastors, parents, and friends—give this to the people you love who are in a relationship. It will raise all the important conversations that too many couples never seriously consider. This book will provide wisdom for big decisions ahead.”  ~Edward T. Welch, CCEF Faculty; author 

“So many couples rush to the altar without asking the right questions or even knowing what to look for. Rob shows couples how to evaluate their spiritual trajectory without falling into the trap of perfectionism. This book provides a plan for gracious relational discernment.”  ~Brad Bigney, Lead Pastor, Grace Fellowship Church, Florence, KY; ACBC certified counselor; author of Gospel Treason 

“Rob Green combines his counseling experience, pastoral concerns, and fatherly passion to guide the person considering the next step beyond dating. I can’t wait to recommend this insightful tool to my single friends, my counseling and pastoral students, and at some point, my grandchildren.”  ~Robert D. Jones, Professor and Chair of Biblical Counseling and Practical Theology, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary; author of Pursuing Peace and Uprooting Anger 

“Many sincere Christians give either too little thought before becoming engaged, relying mainly on attraction and compatibility, or too much, becoming paralyzed by uncertainty while waiting for every element to perfectly align. Are We Ready for the Ring? wisely guides couples through questions that truly matter from God’s point of view, equipping them to move forward with biblical wisdom and confidence. I gladly commend it to every prospective couple and those who disciple them.”  ~John Henderson, Associate Professor of Biblical Counseling and Practical Theology, The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary 

“What a practical book! Are We Ready for the Ring? wiselyaddresses the specific needs of dating couples. Each brief chapter is filled with insight, and I especially appreciate the big idea and reflection sections. This manual is valuable not only for the couple, but also for parents, family members, mentors, singles ministry leaders, young adult ministers, and youth pastors.” ~Bob Kellemen, Author of Gospel-Centered Marriage Counseling and Gospel-Centered Family Counseling 

“The second biggest commitment someone can make in life is marriage. But how does someone know if they’ve found the right person or if they are ready for that commitment? Rob Green answers those questions and many more in this excellent book. He draws on Scripture and decades of pastoral and counseling wisdom to help people discern their next steps. Are We Ready for The Ring? is the resource I have been waiting to share with people.”  ~Curtis W. Solomon, Associate Professor and Program Coordinator of Biblical Counseling, Boyce College 

“I have known Rob Green for more than twenty years and have watched him faithfully shepherd both his church and his own family, including walking through the pre-engagement season with his own children. This book reflects the same biblical conviction, pastoral warmth, and practical wisdom that have marked his ministry for decades. Are We Ready for the Ring? is an excellent resource that will help couples pursue marriage with discernment and Christ-centered hope. We look forward to using it in our ministry with pre-engaged couples.”   ~Kevin Carson, Pastor, Sonrise Baptist Church, Ozark, MO; executive director, Biblical Counseling Coalition 

“It’s so easy to see through rose-colored glasses when you’re dating. But even if you want to make sure you’re seeing clearly, it can be hard to figure out how to take those glasses off. Are We Ready for the Ring? is a helpful tool for couples who genuinely want to make wise relationship decisions. I would strongly encourage dating couples and those speaking into their lives to benefit from the wisdom Rob offers.”   ~Amy Baker, Ministry Resource Director, Faith Church, Lafayette, IN 

“Rob Green’s Tying the Knot has helped countless couples prepare for God-honoring marriages. Are We Ready for the Ring? continues that legacy, offering practical biblical wisdom grounded in decades of faithful pastoral ministry. This is the book I would want my students—and my own children—to read as they prayerfully consider getting engaged.”   ~Trent A. Rogers, Dean, School of Biblical and Theological Studies, Cedarville University 

“Young adults need wisdom to prepare well for engagement. This book provides biblical instruction, realistic examples, and practical application for anyone considering engagement. I highly recommend this resource to both young adults and their mentors. Read this book, walk in the way of wisdom, and enjoy relationships God’s way!”   ~Ross Reeder, Pastor of College and Student Ministries, Faith Church  

“This brief resource covers a host of issues and practical help for couples considering whether they are ready for the lifetime commitment of marriage. I love Rob’s approach to pre-engagement counseling and preparation before a commitment is made. This book is also very helpful for those who might already be engaged as they consider a marriage that would glorify God.”    ~Stuart Scott, Coordinator and Trainer, BCMW; member care director, ACBC