Danger Signs of an Unhealthy Dating Relationship

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Author: Lou Priolo

“I know that the one I’m thinking of spending the rest of my life with is a sinner. I am one too. I know that no two people are totally compatible, and in a marriage of two sinners, there will be difficulties. But sometimes I wonder if we will make it. There are issues over which we keep on stumbling. Am I being oversensitive? Am I worrying about nothing? Or, are my concerns about our compatibility valid?” 

If thoughts and questions like this trouble you, this book may help. Here’s an inventory to help you decide if the light on the road before you is green, yellow or red. It is designed to identify problem areas before you move forward with marriage plans, to serve as a useful tool as you seek godly advice from those who counsel you. 

If you have any doubts about whether or not to move forward towards marriage with this person, take time to read this book. By the time you are finished, your doubts may be relieved. And, even if they aren’t, you should have a much better understanding of the issues that must be addressed in order to remove doubts and have a marriage that is pleasing to God and deeply rewarding to both of you. 

Table of Contents: 

These are the Danger Signs which author Lou Priolo cites:

  • Persistent Doubts About the Relationship
  • A Contentious Spirit
  • Avoidance of Certain Issues or Topics of Discussion
  • Increased Physical Intimacy
  • Fear of Terminating the Relationship
  • Strong Opposition from Family and Friends
  • Lack of Spiritual Harmony
  • Pride
  • Anger
  • Impatience
  • Intolerance
  • Selfishness
  • Inability to Resolve Conflicts
  • Lack of Compassion
  • Disrespect or Contempt
  • Bitterness
  • Irresponsible Behavior
  • Irrational Thinking
  • Excessive Passivity
  • Legalism or Perfectionism
  • Unresolved Conflicts
  • Deceitfulness
  • Intemperance
  • Few Areas of Common Interests

About the author:

Lou Priolo is the founder and president of Competent to Counsel International and is an instructor with Birmingham Theological Seminary. He has been a full-time biblical counselor since 1985 and is a fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors. Lou has been married to his wife, Kim, since 1987 and has two daughters, Sophia and Gabriella.


“The little things we gloss over at the start of a relationship can grow into thorny vines which can strangle a marriage and bury it in toxic fruit. Lou Priolo draws on his wide counseling experience to help couples at any stage of marriage to identify—and then start rooting out – the most common and insidious faults that may overwhelm them in time. Danger Signs is a thoughtful, searching tool for improving your most important earthly union—your marriage—and likely, your own walk with Christ.”  ~Hal Young, Conference speaker, author of Raising Real Men and My Beloved and My Friend and owner of Great Waters Press

“Lou Priolo has authored another volume addressing a crucial issue of life from a Christian worldview. This one deals with dating while also tackling issues inevitably related to dating that committed Christians both need and desire to be answered. But the surpassing value of this work is the blessing of another example from this prolific author of how God’s inerrant and sufficient Word rightly handled effectively provides a faithful and effective Gospel-saturated and Christ-centered life view leading to a Spirit-filled lifestyle demonstrating the preeminence of Christ in all things.”  ~Harry Reeder, Senior Pastor, Briarwood Presbyterian Church, Birmingham, Alabama

"Danger Signs of an Unhealthy Dating Relationship is a practical and biblical look into the ‘red flags’ of dating relationships. I think that anyone dating or thinking about dating would benefit greatly from this book. I will recommend it to my adult grandchildren and I recommend it to you!”  ~Martha Peace, author of The Excellent Wife, Conference Speaker, and a Certified Biblical Counselor